Mayra Louise de Wilde (35) // model // journalist // founder of her own blog The Publisized // advocate for body positivity and self love // new mom // The Princess
Why did you choose The Princess crown?
It represents the journey I have been through. Growing into the woman I am today and owning who I am.
What is your vision for what you do with your blog and Instagram account?
Basically I just want women to feel good about themselves. For almost two decades I didn't really feel good about myself and my body, so I dieted a lot. I always believed that losing a couple of dress sizes would make me happier in life. Turns out that this is not the case. When I finally was able to see the good in myself and the body I have, everything slowly started to change. I stopped dieting, threw out all my diet books, gave away things like my 'goal jeans' and un-followed accounts on social media that made me feel like I wasn't good enough. By sharing my story I hope to inspire other women to work on having a more positive outlook on themselves and their bodies.
Who would you like to crown?
My baby girl, Isameya. I became a mom last summer. I want her to know that she is a queen no matter what. And I hope to inspire her to always wear her crown with pride.
What has been your biggest life lesson?
Learning to take care of myself.
Do you have a mission in life?
To live without keeping myself small or limiting myself. I've done that for years and looking back I feel like I haven't lived my best life those years. When things scare me now, I do them anyway. I try to expand my comfort zone. To really own the spotlight is still a challenge for me, but I'm getting there.
What inspires you to be a better version of yourself?
Isameya. I'm very aware that she will look up to me so I want to be a positive role model for her. Never talking down on myself in front of her is one of the things I try to keep in mind all the time. I hope that she will grow up knowing that she is much more than her looks. And that her body is something to take care of and wear with pride instead of something to battle with like I have done for years.
What’s the advice you would give your 12-year-old self?
I would have told her to be kinder to herself, and remind her that she's worthy of everything good in life and I would give her a hug. That girl needed to know that life would turn out okay. I really struggled with my self-image when I was a teen. Believing that I wasn't good enough and that I needed to change had a huge impact on the way I lived my life. Looking back I see a girl and young woman that wasn't really there. She was afraid to be seen. Now that I'm putting myself out there, especially on Instagram, I actually make a difference. And it all started with that little insecure girl.